Monday, January 25, 2010

He's Got the Look...

OK, so I am at work today. I'm in my classroom, rocking the most precious baby you ever laid eyes on (except my own, of course!!!) when I hear Ol' Red (the hubby's ride and yes it is that loud!!!) pull up outside. While I'm sitting there, waiting for him to come in, I'm imaging all the WONDERFUL reasons he could possibly have to stop by the workplace at this odd hour.

Hmm.....


He was out and about and thought of me, so he swung through Sonic and picked me up a Cherry Limeade? (Love that idea! And he has done it before.) The Publisher Clearing House people found him at work and we have won a prize that would pay our bills for a lifetime? (even better idea! Of course that is probably a definite "no" since I haven't entered or bought a magazine from them in years...) He just swung by just "to say I love you." (Now that would be sweet, but...) Or maybe he got a haircut today. He is all about me noticing the new trims... Oh, I hope nothing bad has happened...


Hubby walks through the door...


I brace myself for the...

Oh no. He has the LOOK.


Yeah, it is definitely the LOOK.

You know, the LOOK, that says, I am fixin' to tell you something and you are probably not going to like it, but you will have to deal with it because I have already decided I am doing it... LOOK. Ever seen that one?

Oh yeah...

As he precedes to tell me his "plans," I just have to smile. This spontaneous, fly by the seat of your pants, just get up and go and do ability, leaves me totally amazed, flabbergasted and speechless... and just plum JEALOUS, every time. I think time would stand still in shock, if I just walked in one day and told the hubby and kids that I was going on a trip...that day. Confusion would mount if I walked in and said, "Honey, I know you don't have plans, so let me tell you what I'm doing..." (Although I do admit that the older my kids get, the easier this would be for me to do, but I had preschoolers once. I've certainly paid my dues. My hubby is a minister, his time is hardly ever his own.)



Now, before you think I'm mad at the hubster, I AM NOT. This is not meant to be a hubby bashing post. I totally love the guy. I totally get the guy. I totally understand the guy. He can't help it. He is just a guy.

Guys have been trained to go and do and worry later. Girls are trained to smother a situation to death in worry. A guy will say "it will work out." A girl says "I'm going to have it all planned so I know it will work out." Little boys are brought up in the world knowing "Mom" will take care of things. Little girls are brought up learning "how" to take care of things.

So, when the hubby comes in and says "I'm going to...," I just smile. I just make it happen. I just roll with the punches and simply try my hardest to look at the bright side. Sixteen and a half years of marriage has taught me well. So, while things might not always seem fair... and never will be, you can at least train the hubby to have the LOOK. That LOOK that says "YES, I am doing what I want, but I will at least worry about your feelings, and if you don't want me to go, please say so, but I know you won't...," LOOK. (My husband knows me too well. Gotta love him!)

Hmm... this is where you say "I love you" and that tonight will be alright... this is where you decide if you make a fuss or not. But, wait a minute! Do I really want to make a stink about it? I'm just thinking...

Wait Mich, what is that on your face?!!! At least let him get out of the room before you start to smile. Stop it right now! He can't see the smile or... Mich, don't get too excited or you might scare the baby, you are rocking. Hold it! Patience please...

As 'Ol Red can be heard driving off, I flip to the brighter side of things, barely able to control the excitement mounting...


YES!!! I get the remote tonight. (Bachelor and Castle, free of flipping channels, here I come!!!)

YES!!! Big Daddy is not eating, so I think the stove gets a much needed break and so does this mama. Don't want to wear the poor thing and me out. (Snicker. Snicker.) Taco Bell, anyone?

YES!!! There is one luscious strawberry Popsicle (They have real strawberries in them, people!!!) left and it is MINE!

YES!!! I can be on the computer and not feel a bit guilty....

Yeah Kev, I guess if I really don't have a choice (wink), I will TRY to survive the evening...

Now ladies, don't be too jealous of my ability to have control of the remote, tonight, for you know your time will come, it always does. (But isn't it funny what we consider a simple pleasure in the "bright" side of things?) I guess all is fair in love and war...OOPS! What I meant to say was "love and marriage."

Have a good one!

Oh, and Honey, if you read this, you know I would much rather have you home than having control of the remote, sitting in the big comfy chair, eating my Popsicle. Really!!! :)

15 comments:

Sharon Sloan said...

Mich: This was one of my favorite posts....for many reasons. I felt like I was sitting there with you. And you honored your hubby by helping his plans "roll". You responded well. And you made us all smile as we are reading this!

And besides, who doesn't like complete control of the remote once in a while!?!?

Jim said...

Sis,
I know the point of the blog was to detail the studied and perfecting of the "hubby-gendered" part of the team, to give insight into the workings of the mind of the oh.so.more.in.tune wife types, and don't misunderstand me - I admit to my own part in that oft' acted play with your also oh.so.more.in.tune Mom - it's just that I was waiting for his other.shoe to drop. What? Did he realize you already knew what he was going to say, smile, turn and speed off to whatever destination "that you did not tell us was already decided without getting your input - anyway". Now, I realize that perhaps where he was going pales in comparison to your possession of the remote, the last treat from the freezer and a pc guiltfree session, but I'm gonna be awake tonight still wondering.

Just kidding, of course, for that's his and your business. Just wanted you to know I thought you did a great job keeping my attention with the mystery you very effectively pc.ed. You girls are awesome daughters, and I hope when I grow up, I'll get some of your talent.

Jim-Dad

Amber said...

HA! You posted it! You did a good job, too! No hubby bashing. Just the facts.

Oh...and what about my babies???? They were precious. HELLO!!!

elaine @ peace for the journey said...

Well, confession...

I always have control over the remote, but for that matter, so does everyone else. We have enough tv's in the house for everyone's personal preferences, although everyone always gravitates to one room.

Very funny post; great attitude. My husband went to Bolivia two years ago for two weeks; he hasn't been back. As the kids grow older, I'm more prone to welcoming his adventures.

You're a very good wife...

peace`elaine

Sherry said...

Love your attitude! :D Dh lets me have control of remote sometimes and even has enjoyed some things that I watch like the Food Network. LOL!

Kristin said...

So true, the differences between men and women! That was a cute post....hope he had fun and you did too!

3 Blessings said...

Such a cute post.
Blessings,
Amy

christy rose said...

You are such a wonderful wife. I can guarantee that there are not that many wives that I know of that would have handled it that way with that great attitude. :) Enjoy the remote tonight and taco bell. :)

Jo said...

Sorry it wasn't that you had won the Publisher's Clearinghouse sweepstakes. (I'm still waiting for MY call from them!) :)

You handled the situation very well! Just goes to show how much you and Kev are "in-tune" with each other.

Even though I am alone now, I can still recall appreciating the times that I was able to have some time to myself to do whatever I wanted, without worrying about cooking, or something that included considering the other person in the house. We all need those "me breaks" from time-to-time, don't we?

Hope you enjoyed that luscious sounding popsicle!

Luvya!
Aunt Jo

Cheesemakin' Mamma said...

Oh, I can so identify! Great post. Also, thanks for your interest in the natural cleaning. You're keeping me motivated to keep posting on it.

Have a great evening with the remote :)

Tiffany said...

lol! This was so cute!

Jennifer @ Getting Down With Jesus said...

I love your attitude.


This is my first time here, and I'm so glad I stopped.

I was delighted that you dropped by Getting Down With Jesus the other day, and now am delighted to "meet" you here.

A terrific post ...

momstheword said...

Oh yeah, love control of the remote (and the laptop, lol!)

Except for church stuff, which can be spur of the moment, my hubby has never gone off a trip spur of the moment (at least, not that I can recall).

However, he has been known to suggest an outing with the boys but that usually takes planning.

He just is sort of a planner and not really spur of the moment (at least, not something that will take him away over night).

However, he will have things that take him away for the evening, etc. He's gone tonight as a matter of fact, and guess where I am? Woohoo!

He & Me + 3 said...

YOu are too funny. I hope that you enjoyed your popsicle and your shows:)

Becca~TimeWellSpent said...

I could only laugh at this! I don't mind Mark having an evening out with the guys for the same reasons!

Isn't it funny how men "inform" and women "ask". This was something I didn't know as a new bride nearly 15 years ago:)